It’s sad how much we underestimate the power of crying. How, too often, we mistake it with feebleness and cowardice. I used to think so too. Our society breeds negative judgments like cancer; associating it with gender, degree of suffering or immaturity. Phrases like ‘stop crying like a girl’ are spoken very generally.
In reality, crying is good for you and your mental health. Crying is a sign of utmost strength and patience. It takes away the pain you’ve been carrying around on your shoulders regardless of its intensity. It drains all the toxicity, all the stress hormones you’ve been nursing inside your body, because you’ve been fighting every single day. It might seem bizarre, but it actually winds you down and helps you sleep better. Don’t think of it as a gesture for frailty, when the fact is, it shows that you’ve been strong for too long.
I am here to tell you that it is completely OKAY to cry, and here are the reasons why crying is good for you
1. Your emotions need an outlet
Crying gives a way out to burdensome emotions; anger, frustration, sadness, fear or anxiety. It’s an expression that helps you let go and breathe a sigh of relief
2. Crying is a physiological response
It is a natural response to situations and feelings and helps us deal better with pain. We usually breathe deeply when we cry and deep breathing reduces cortisol levels, which in turn reduces stress levels. This helps us calm down and think clearly. Crying also helps us clear bacteria from our skin and makes our eyesight better
3. It is important for psychological health
Suppressing crying is the worst thing you can do. All the negative emotions that you will suppress eventually build up and cause mood swings, extreme reactions to simple situations, and make you angrier and sadder – you will feel worse over time. Cry and let it go
4. You don’t need to cross a breaking point to cry
All feelings are valid and you are allowed to cry no matter the magnitude of trauma or pain. Doesn’t matter if you lost a pet or a loved one, doesn’t matter what age you are, doesn’t matter if you are a person with a low or high IQ. Crying does not show weakness, it only shows that you have a good heart and are a sensitive person
5. Crying helps us refocus
Once we deal with things that are wearing us down, we can finally move forward. Crying helps us confront suppressed thoughts and undo the pain associated with them so we can finally close disturbing chapters of our lives and continue living with grace
Now that I have given you proofs for why it’s completely alright to cry, I want you to promise me that if it gets too much, you will not be afraid to seek help. Sometimes we need guidance from experts who are there to help us make sense of our decisions and the world we live in. Check in with a therapist or a life coach if things aren’t making sense to you and you need support.
I hope after reading this, you aren’t afraid to cry anymore. You have now realized why crying is good for you. You’re loved and your feelings are valid and your mental health is more important than everything else.
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